Adam Nimoy has boldly gone where no fan has gone before.
The son of the late “Star Trek” actor Leonard Nimoy has written a “respectful” but warts-and-all memoir about his “complicated” relationship with his father that reveals how he spent most of his life. They were separate.
“You know, it’s not ‘Mommy Dearest.’ “The Most Human: Reconciling My Father, Leonard Nimoy,” is available from the beginning. Tuesday June 4th.
“Like Spock, Dad wasn’t the warm and fuzzy type,” Adam writes of Leonard, who died in 2015 at age 83, and was half-human, half-Vulcan. writes about the character he originally played for three seasons, 1966–1969. series and six movie sequels, as well as JJ Abrams’ recent series of film reboots.
“Dad had trouble expressing his feelings about me except frustration and anger,” Adam, a recovering alcoholic, admitted in the memoir, adding ruefully that “all conflicts were anger, resentment and Ended up in frustration. We didn’t have a constructive way to talk about things, and I could often feel his frustration with me, that in his eyes, I didn’t measure up.
He constantly struggled to “make him the father I wanted him to be,” he writes.
When differences arose — whether at home or on set — it was often futile to hope for a positive resolution.
“They Bow your head with everyone. You are obsessed with Leonard. You just don’t. He takes no prisoners,” Adam told The Post. “He can get angry very quickly. And there was no way I was going to win with him.
Adam understands that this realization may surprise some of his father’s longtime fans.
“One of my favorite stories is when I had one of those knock-out, drag-out fights with my dad, and then I went to the cleaners to get my shirts,” he said. “And when the guy found out I was related to Leonard Nimoy, he went on and on about how great Leonard Nimoy was.
“And it was just like, ‘Okay, I just need my shirts.’ I’ve dealt with it a lot. The public has an impression of public figures.”
Yet, despite their ongoing father-son estrangement that led to estrangement — sometimes for years — he shared that he was a fan himself and was always proud of his father’s accomplishments. Even now he reflects fondly on a fixed visit to the original series when he was only 10 years old.
“I was in his presence. I was in Spock’s presence — as a fan and an admirer,” he told the Post. “And over time, knowing the extent of his impact on this planet makes it even more memorable for me. “
Over time, Adam, a director and filmmaker, was finally able to better connect with his father with the help of friends in recovering from drug addiction in the last years of Leonard’s life. They urged him to “make amends” with his father for his wrongs — without expecting a similar return from Leonard, who also battled alcoholism.
“Don’t take it. Don’t prove it wrong. Don’t try to be right,” he recalled admonishing them. “You have a choice: you can either be right about your father or you can be happy. It’s your choice – but you can’t have both.
Although somewhat one-sided, it worked, and he was able to put aside the anger that had plagued him for years.
“Look, my dad did his best, and that’s it,” she told The Post. “I was the world, I was off the planet Leonard.
“For better or worse, my relationship with my father was the most important relationship of my life,” he continued. “And it was really difficult and complicated and, you know, sometimes devastating.
“And in the end, really satisfying, I think, is the best word for it.”
Adam Nimoy will participate in a book launch on Thursday, June 6 at 7 p.m. In Barnes & Noble, 2289 Broadway at 82nd Street, Manhattan. He will also appear on Wednesday, June 5 at 7 p.m. at the Long Beach Public Library111 W. Park Ave., Long Beach, and A ticketed book signing Friday, June 7 at 7 p.m., at Bookends, 211 E. Ridgewood Ave., Ridgewood, New Jersey.
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